Nabal was a fool. How can I be so sure that Nabal was a fool? Because the word Nabal in Hebrew means fool. So yes, Nabal was fool. And why was Nabal a fool? He was a fool, clearly, because he was uncivil.
Nabal happened to be a man of great wealth. He was possessed of three thousand sheep and one thousand goats. But this fool and his money were not
soon parted. Nabal maintained his vast flock over a vast wilderness with a vast number of shepherds. David and his men by chance encountered Nabal’s operation.
Now it bears repeating that whenever we are talking about the Old Testament, we are talking about violent times. Truth be told, all times are violent times. Read the news if you seek confirmation of this. All times are violent times because we are violent creatures. But regarding the Old Testament, we are talking about a certain type of violent times.
I tell my students in the biblical studies class I teach each semester that I will give them extra credit if they will watch the Netflix miniseries Godless. Now why would I plug the Netflix miniseries Godless,
particularly in a biblical studies class? It is because Godless
is a more recent and more familiar depiction of the type of violent times of the Old Testament. Godless is set in the Old West. You all have some sense of the Old West. Outlaws, show downs, shoot outs, saloon brawls, brothels, gunslingers, horse rustlers, train robberies – all pitted against the local sheriff. That’s the type of violent times of the Old Testament.
Certain conditions produce this type of violent times. It doesn’t matter whether it’s the Old Testament or the Old West. When you have people living a rough and ready existence off the land with little centralized authority and sparse law enforcement it is going to produce this type of violent times.
The point is, David and his men by chance encountered Nabal’s operation. Had it been anyone but David he would have just terrorized or killed the shepherds and helped himself to the flock. But that’s not what David did. He did the opposite. David actually protected the shepherds and their flock from others who would do them violence. This was David after all. He was not molded by his violent times. He was not molded by anything. David broke the mold. He broke the mold because he could see beyond it all to the truth. It’s a pity that men such as David are one in a billion. At any rate, David and his men made a wall of protection around the shepherds and their flock day and night.
David gleaned from the shepherds that their master was Nabal, and so his messenger approached Nabal for a small favor. Since it was a festival day, he asked Nabal for a few sheep so they could celebrate the festival day with a feast. Now remember, David could have just taken the sheep by force. Anybody else would have. But he approached Nabal and asked for them, and asked for them with great civility, “Peace be to you, peace be to your house, and peace be to all you have,” he entreated Nabal.
What was Nabal’s response? He met David’s civility with his own incivility. His response, if you forgive the directness of my speech, was along the order of, Who the hell do you think you are asking me for my sheep?
This was not just incivility. It was egregious incivility. Because it was David, after all, asking him for his sheep; David, who at this point in his career was King Saul’s most valiant warrior -- renowned throughout the kingdom. David for his part was outraged by Nabal’s response -- outraged because Nabal’s response was outrageous. David was so outraged that he was ready to kill him.
And there is an important lesson here for us. When someone insults us, yes, we are going to be outraged. That’s ok. Again, we are violent creatures. It’s hardwired in us. But we also are capacitated to master it. We can be outraged, but we can master it. We must master it. Whatever it takes. For me what helps to master it is to process the outrage with a sympathetic listener. When someone sympathizes with my outrage it soothes me precisely because it sympathizes with me. This is what David did.
Nabal had a wife named Abigail. She was the opposite of a fool. David was soon to praise her for her good sense. She brought him the sheep he requested and then some, every imaginable provision for a lavish feast. And she sympathized with outrage. For his incivility, he’s rightly named fool, she said to David. But he is not worth the guilt that would besmirch you should you spill his blood.
And David mastered his outrage.
Nabal, of course, got what was coming to him. When, arising after a night of drunken carousing, he learned what Abigail did, he was so enraged he had a heart attack and died. David married Abigail, and the world was relieved of a fool. Nabal was probably remembered for what he was, or probably closer to the mark, he was probably not remembered at all. I can scarcely imagine Abigail in the arms of David holding a torch for him.
The Old Testament is teaching us a lesson here. It’s a hard lesson, and it’s a blunt lesson. The lesson is that if you are uncivil, you are a fool. You are a fool not just because you create disunity. Not just because you create hostility. Not just because you create trouble. You are a fool because you lack the prudence to act in your own interest, because there are consequences to being uncivil. You lose your reputation. You lose regard. You lose respect. And the world will count itself well rid of you.
And there are no exceptions. It doesn’t matter whether you are positive your cause is just, and the opposing cause is not. It doesn’t matter whether the times are uncivil. It doesn’t matter if someone was uncivil to you first. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a bad mood. It doesn’t matter if you think you got the short end of the stick in life. It doesn’t matter if you are power up or power down. It doesn’t matter what role you have been cast to play in the human drama. It does not entitle you to be uncivil.
Because Jesus Christ set the bar much higher than civility. He set the bar at love across all divides – divides of race, divides of class, divides of religion, divides even between enemies. This I command you, that you love one another.
He set the bar at love inspired by him and made possible by his Spirit. That’s our ultimate goal as his disciples. So can we not at very least be civil to each other, for Christ’s sake? Amen.