Getting my three daughters off to Middle School last week was no mean feat. In fact, it was a back breaker. Getting them off year by year is tough enough. Normally, it requires a complicated and lengthy registration process involving the school district; school supplies lists that inevitably include hard-to-find items such as purple, one inch, three ring binders or royal blue jumbo book covers; new backpacks, lunch boxes, shoes, and clothes; and medical, dental, and vision forms.
Middle School added to all that the so-called "genre" project. Some sadistic Middle School teachers thought it would be a good idea to give all incoming Middle Schoolers summer homework. My daughters each had to read three books of a given genre, summarize them in ten bullet points, and state their assessments of the genre using textual examples. This is the kind of work I give to my college students, so naturally my daughters felt the assignment to be over their heads. Bottom line -- to adequately assist them I had to read the nine books.
But the real kicker turned out to be the medical, dental, and vision forms. For me that meant, here's that number again, nine separate appointments. I soldiered through them, but at the end of the ninth appointment, one of the girls was referred by the pediatrician to a specialist. "It's just one more appointment," I told myself. "Ten is a nice round number."
When we got to the specialist's office, the receptionist gave us a grim look. "Doctor's running an hour behind," she stated flatly. "Doctor's running an hour behind?" I repeated weakly. I felt at this point I had neared the finish line only to be told I had ten more miles to go. "Oh well," I said to my daughter trying to put a positive spin on the thing, "at least there are lots of good magazines to read."
To tell the truth I hadn't read a magazine in ages. How could I, with all the Middle School preparation I was wrestling with? I had no time for such luxuries. I opened the magazine, slipping into relaxation mode. That mode lasted until I began to peruse the first article.
It was entitled “Fighting Aging”. It was an informational piece featuring a chart. On the far-left side of the chart was a list of various indicators of aging – frown lines, laugh lines, worry lines, marionette lines, dark spots, turkey neck, bags, etc. Next to the list were two columns -- one that listed the over the counter way to eradicate these indicators of aging, and another that listed the way involving medical procedures.
Interspersed in the margins were graphic photos of faces diagrammed for surgery and hypodermic needles being stuck into wrinkles. I have to admit that I found the article horrifying. Aging naturally wasn’t even considered an option. Come on now, I thought. Laugh lines? Frown lines? Worry lines? Are these things really so intolerable? Can I just leave mine alone? Didn’t I earn them? Haven’t I the right to wear them? I flipped the page only to be confronted with the headline, "Celebrities Unphotoshopped" which showcased photographs of celebrities who actually looked their ages. This was being presenting as some kind of an expose, some kind of a scandal. I tossed the magazine aside, though it caused me to realize something: It take tremendous moral courage to age in this culture. But why? Why is this the case?
It is, I think, that our culture exploits the vanity and insecurity that lurks, to varying degrees, in us all. Our culture does so by advancing a false, but inviolable premise – namely, that youth is good, and maturity is bad. We are inundated by this premise, and we have internalized it. Hence we seek to appear young. Case in point: If we are told we look ten years younger than we are, we are delighted; but if we would ever happened to be told that we look ten years older than we are, we would carry the insult to the grave. And to make matters worse, our culture advances this false but inviolable premise only so that it can make money off of us; so it can sell us goods and services.
But we could go deeper. It’s not just our vanity and insecurity that are being preyed upon. It’s our mortality. Let’s face it. We evade our mortality. We don’t want to be bound to the circle of life, especially as that circle cycles downward. We don’t want to grow old -- to slow down, to suffer physical limitations and ailments, to experience loss, to become marginalized, and finally to die. And our culture, in marketing youth to us, aids us in this evasion of our mortality. As I said, it takes tremendous moral courage to age in this culture.
But that moral courage the Bible provides. It provides it throughout its unfolding. The Bible has a whole different take on aging than our culture. Consider the book of Ecclesiastes. The book of Ecclesiastes acknowledges that there are inexorable stages of life -- “a time to be born and a time to die” -- but here’s the key thing. It describes these stages of life as, “matters under heaven.” The book of Ecclesiastes recognizes that it is God who has ordained these stages of life.
And as the Bible unfolds further it helps us to understand why God has ordained these stages of life. Paul hints at it – “Even though our outer nature is wasting away, our inner nature is being renewed day by day.” God has ordained these stages of life as the means to ready us for consummation in God’s eternity. And aging, if by God’s providence we reach that stage of life, is the stage God has ordained for us to wind down, to let go, to say farewell, to look back and discern the ways in which we bore God’s image in our lifetimes, and to look forward to the glory that will be revealed.
And if this were not enough evidence of the Bible’s take on aging, we need only look to the Bible’s culmination, to the Christ event. God sent Christ precisely to demonstrate -- to teach us and to show us -- that at all stages of life, and in all that these stages may hand us, God is with us, bestowing upon us the way of his eternity.
The Bible then, needless to say, would not approve of our culture’s take on aging. In fact, the Bible would repudiate it. It would contend that our culture’s take on aging is a human concoction that denies God’s very providence for us. And this much is undeniable: there is no sense in contending with God’s providence for us. God created us as his, and God is God. So to contend with God’s providence for us is in the last analysis self-denying. It’s self-defeating. It’s downright suicide.
Maturity, friends, means to be fully developed. Maturity then is a good thing. Let us strive then to embrace maturity as it comes, and to be, whatever our age, mature Christians who fear not life and fear not death. Amen.