By Rebecca Clancy
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May 20, 2020
We have all heard the old cliché that patience is a virtue, but for Christians this is more than an old cliché. For Christians this is a literal fact. Patience is indeed listed among the Christian virtues. There are seven in all – chastity, temperance, diligence, kindness, charity, humility, and patience. Patience is then something to which we as Christians must aspire if we are to be virtuous. And who among us does not want to be virtuous? But what is patience, exactly? It’s a word we banter around all the time. Be patient! we say again and again. But it's one of those words that if someone puts you on the spot and asks you to define it, you might find yourself stammering. I have given the matter some thought. Here is my own working definition. Patience means bearing or enduring something that is unpleasant in calmness, peace, and wisdom. Patience means bearing or enduring something that is unpleasant without resort to retaliation or complaint. But no sooner than we have a working definition than it becomes necessary to issue a few caveats, because there are cases in which patience is not applicable. You could say there are cases in which patience is not a virtue. Patience is not a virtue if we happen to fall victim to social injustice. This is because social injustice does not right itself by dint of some natural moral progress that is automatically unfolding. Social injustice is righted by brave, tireless, costly, conscientious action. To be patient, then, if we happen to fall victim to social injustice is simply to perpetuate our victimization. And too, patience is not a virtue in the face of evil. Evil and its foot soldiers – violence, hatred, and cruelty -- are like murderers on the rampage, causing senseless mayhem and suffering in their wake. Evil is an urgent danger that must be met with immediate counter force to stem the destruction it causes. And too, patience is not a virtue in case of abusive relationships. Dysfunctional individuals are insidious. They very often aren't known to themselves, and so they imperviously suck functional individuals into enabling their own abuse. The effect is life destroying. No, once an abusive relationship is recognized as such, timely evacuation is the necessary course. No, patience does not apply in cases such as these, in which patience is extolled as a virtue to sanction vice. But these caveats aside, let’s return to my own working definition of patience: Patience means bearing or enduring something that is unpleasant in calmness, peace, and wisdom. Patience means bearing or enduring something that is unpleasant without resort to complaint or retaliation. Now, we've seen cases where patience does not apply; but where does it apply? It applies to the unpleasantness of everyday life – the annoying relative, the long wait, the inconsiderate driver, the chronic medical condition, the incompetent clerk, the grieving process, the difficult personality, the over scheduled day, the tough transition, the road back, the hassles, the headaches these kinds of things. But just hearing this list, makes us a bit….dare I say it…impatient. How do we summon that peace, calm, and wisdom, how do we forswear complaint or retaliation? To put it simply, how do we practice patience? This is the real question. Well if the Bible is any judge, we do it by, of all things, reminders that we make to ourselves. Take a look at Moses. Think about his life for a minute. He happened to have been, as the Bible puts it, snatched like a brand from the fire. His countrymen had been enslaved by the Egyptians. In enslavement their population exploded, and they came to be seen by the Egyptians as a threat. So Pharaoh decided to thin their ranks by killing their infant sons. By a fluke Moses' mother defied Pharaoh and hid her son from Pharaoh; by a fluke Pharaoh's daughter discovered and adopted him. By a fluke then, Moses, and he alone of all his enslaved countrymen, grew up with every imaginable privilege and advantage. This allowed Moses to cultivate self- actualization. You may have heard of Maslow's pyramid. Maslow was a psychologist who believed that certain needs had to be met in order for one to cultivate self- actualization. First there were the basic needs - food and water. Then there were the safety needs - security and shelter. Then there were the social needs - family, friends and community. After that there were the needs that built self esteem like achievement and mastery. And after all these needs were met, one could cultivate self-actualization - that is to say, one could be autonomous and free, one could be creative in coordination with one's basic being. The point is - Moses was at the top of Maslow's pyramid. He had cultivated self- actualization. But his fellow countrymen were at the bottom Maslow's pyramid, struggling to get their most basic physical needs met. To put it bluntly, Moses was refined; his fellow countrymen were rabble. And because Moses was refined, the Lord chose him to deliver his fellow countrymen from Egyptian slavery. The Lord hedged his bets that Moses would succeed. He orchestrated through Moses supernatural interventions - plagues, pillars of cloud and fire, a parted sea. And so Moses delivered his fellow countrymen from Egyptian slavery. But it didn't make his fellow countrymen any less rabble. They continued to fret about their most basic physical needs - and did they ever complain about it to Moses! They had not ascended Maslow's pyramid. They did not comprehend the need for short term sacrifices for the sake of long term goals. They could not see the big picture, much less read their situation theologically. They had no self- restraint. They had no gratitude. They were out for what they could get. And the complaints kept coming. They made Moses' life unpleasant. Yet the face of it, Moses practiced patience through reminders he made to himself. “These people have known hardship that I haven't. They just aren’t there yet. If I don’t help them, who will? God is on the move. He will see me through. This is how our future as a people is being wrought.” Or take a look at Paul: Like Moses he was set apart from his people, but in his case it was not due to a series of flukes. It was due to his intellectual acumen and his personality. Due to his intellectual acumen he actually “got” the Christ event. Due to his personality - we'll call him a firebrand - he was in a position to do something about it. But the problem was that none of the other players around him recognized his personality and intellectual acumen for what they were. All the other players around him thought that they themselves "got" the Christ event. All the other players around him thought that they had the personality to do something about it. And so all the other players around him went off half-cocked, interfering with Paul's work, undermining him, contradicting him, defying him. They made Paul's life unpleasant. Yet in the face of it Paul practiced patience through reminders he made to himself. “I am a true apostle. God revealed to me the risen Christ on the road to Damascus. God sent me. My opponents don't know that they don't know. And so I can and I must become all things to all people. I must get into their head and into their hearts if I am to help them to know as I know so that Christ may be served.” So then, how do we practice patience? We do it with like reminders we make to ourselves. God is good. Life is worth living. I have heard the upward call of Jesus Christ. My life overflows with blessings. Most people on this planet would love to change places with me. I have enough to eat and a roof over my head. I live in safe environment. I have been loved. I don't know the realities that my detractors face. We are all up against our own struggles. It's not all about me. Whatever reminders work for us, we practice patience with the reminders we make to ourselves. Thus far I've said much about patience. What it is: It is bearing or enduring something that is unpleasant in calmness, peace, and wisdom. It is bearing or enduring something that is unpleasant without resort to retaliation or complaint. What it is not: It is not acquiescing to social injustice, evil, or abusive relationships. Where it applies: It applies to the day to day unpleasantness which is a permanent fixture of the human condition. How it is practiced: It is practiced by reminders that we make to ourselves. But there's one more thing, one more question. Why is patience practiced? Why is patience practiced? Brace yourselves for the answer. It’s about God’s nose. Yes, his nose. His nose was long. Pinocchio was not the only one. I confess that when I learned that I was required to master biblical Hebrew for academic degrees, I was less than thrilled. But once I actually mastered it, I discovered that reading the Old Testament in its original language is fascinating, yes, but mostly it is very surprising. One of the things that is surprising is that Hebrew idioms, figures of speech, expressions, and the like are not translated into English. Translators have concluded that they would stymie the English reader. So for example, if the Hebrew read, "he kicked the bucket," it would be translated simply, "he died." One of the most famous quotes from the Bible is from the book of Exodus. You all know it, "The Lord, the compassionate and gracious God is slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love." "God is slow to anger" in Hebrew really reads, "God is long of nose." Now we read about the arm of the Lord, the Lord's right hand, the face of the Lord, but God's long nose? But in fact God's long nose is an idiom for God's patience. This famous quote gives expression to one of God's central attributes, and one of God's central attributes is patience. So why do we practice patience? Because God practices patience with us. He practices patience with us to the extent that in the fullness of time he gave us his own beloved son, even let us have our hateful way with him, so that in the wake of our hatred, we would stand the chance to become more like him. God practices patience with us. May we practice patience with one another. Amen.