Why in the world did Jesus overreact as he did? Some woman that he’d never set eyes on dumps a vial of oil on his head, and Jesus responds, “Truly I tell you, wherever the good news is proclaimed in the whole world, what she has done will be told in remembrance of her.” Pretty big words for a pretty small gesture. So why in the world did Jesus overreact as he did?
The answer is not an easy one; the answer is not a short one; but I assure you, the answer is a worthwhile one. It has to do with, of all things, self-acceptance. So let’s reflect about self-acceptance.
The first thing to understand about self-acceptance is that it is a universal desire. Everyone desires self-acceptance - contentment and satisfaction with who we are -- and who we really are, and not just with regard to our strengths, but with regard to our weaknesses as well. The second thing to understand about self acceptance, however, is that it’s hard to come by.
Say you’re born to poverty. From the time you are conscious, you feel the world’s suspicion and disapproval. No one wants you around. No one trusts you. Above all, no one wants you moving into their neighborhood. Even if you eventually rise above your station, you still feel like an outsider for the rest of your life. How are you supposed to accept yourself?
Or say you’re a minority, a minority of any kind. Until recently there were laws on the books outlawing, in one way or another, many minorities. But even absent the laws, you feel the weight of discrimination. You feel the weight of segregation. And your experience, your reality, isn’t depicted anywhere, unless it’s depicted negatively. How are you supposed to accept yourself?
Or say you are afflicted by mental illness or addiction. Life is really tough for you. You struggle through it in ways others don’t. You look out at everyone else who has it so much easier, to whom life comes so naturally. You live with the constant fear and anxiety that you might not make it. How are you supposed to accept yourself?
Or say you don’t like the way you look. And how could you like the way you look? You are bombarded every which way by falsified and idealized images you are supposed to embody but can’t. You’re too old. You’re too short. You’re too big. You’re too plain. Fill in the blank. You simply can’t measure up, and it’s hard to escape feeling inadequate. How are you supposed to accept yourself?
Or say you aren’t what your parents ordered. They wanted a great athlete and a straight A student who was going to be a smashing success in life and make them proud. Your heart was in another game. In ways big and small, they never let you forget their disappointment. How are you supposed to accept yourself?
I could go on and on and on. There are probably as many threats to self-acceptance as there are people. As I said, it’s hard to come by.
And the reason can be seen to emerge. Self acceptance is predicated upon the acceptance of others. And others are judgmental. If you doubt it, go online and look at a thread, any thread -- if you want to see just how vicious and shallow and mean and ignorant and prejudiced the judgments of others are. The struggle for self acceptance is the struggle against the need for the acceptance of others, and that’s a no easy struggle. It takes tremendous courage and strength and independence.
But at the same time, we are all deeply in need of community. But take note. There is a difference between the acceptance of others and community. The “acceptance” of others is just that. Underscore the word others. Community is just the opposite. Community occurs between people who hold things in common. It occurs between people of mutual understanding, mutual appreciation, mutual affirmation, mutual encouragement, and mutual support. It occurs between kindred spirits.
There’s an obvious lesson in this for us. We need to strive for self acceptance, and we need to seek community. To bring this back to church, it’s about putting some real stock in what we profess to believe - that we are all children of God, beloved by him and redeemed by him -- because we are accepted by him.
And speaking of bringing this back to church, let’s return at long last to Jesus. Now of course Jesus achieved self acceptance, but like everything he achieved, it was harder for him, harder for him than anyone. And why? Because at his baptism the Holy Spirit imparted to him that he was the Son of God and that his impending death would constitute a vicarious sacrifice for human sin. How in the world does anyone accept that? That was the identity he had to accept. That was the destiny he had to accept. But he did. This is Jesus we are talking about, after all. This is why we don’t just respect him. This is why we worship him.
And to say that his self acceptance was not predicated upon the acceptance of others is the understatement of the century. Others were judgmental back then too. The religious authorities, those who were supposed to be leaders and role models, attacked him left and right. When he asserted his divinity they screamed blasphemy. And they were all too eager to help him along with his death that would constitute a vicarious sacrifice for human sin. His own family thought he was insane; even his own mother despaired of him. But at least he had his disciples, right? Wrong. They were the worst yet. Whenever he tried to impart to them his impending death, which he wanted desperately for them to apprehend, they were deliberately obtuse. This is why they acted so pathetically after his arrest.
But at the same time, Jesus needed community, needed kindred spirits who knew who he was and what he had to do. He found them, though they were but a few -- Mary Magdalene, Lazarus, Nicodemus. But they meant everything to him.
Enter the woman he had never set eyes on who dumped a vial of oil on his head. But she too knew who he was and what he had to do! That’s why she dumped a vial of oil on his head. She was anointing his body for his death. She was doing it before his death precisely so he would know that she knew who he was and what he had to do. So I guess it wasn’t an over reaction after all.
So there is more here for us than the lesson to strive for self-acceptance and to seek community. There is the lesson to join into community with Jesus Christ; to become those kindred spirits who know who he was and what he had to do; who know that he was the Son of God whose death was a vicarious sacrifice for our
sin. And this is no small lesson. It is the whole and sole cornerstone of our lives, and more than this, it is the means for us to minister to the spirit of Jesus Christ, as did the woman Jesus made sure would never be forgotten.
Think about that. I mean it. Think about that. Think long and think hard. Think about that in the midst of all the tribulation that at present surrounds us. Because the tribulation has come before, and it will come again. The tribulation is but part of a passing scene, but he is not. He is the Alpha and the Omega, and we can minister to his spirit. Let that be said of us. Amen.