David and Jonathan. Theirs was one of the most poignant and profound friendships in the Old Testament. Jonathan was the first born son of King Saul - which made him a prince as well as heir apparent to the throne.
But there was something wrong with King Saul, something terribly wrong. Exactly what it was is hard to say. The text does not specify. We are left to read between the lines. But King Saul was clearly deeply troubled. To me, judging from his maniacal paranoia, it would seem he had some kind of a mental illness, probably schizophrenia. The bottom line is that he was not much of a father to Jonathan.
Sometimes when a parent is deficient - has a mental illness, or an addiction, or a vice, it sharpens the perception of the child. This is what happened with Jonathan. He perceived his father’s deficiency from an early age.. Thereupon, there was a kind of role reversal. Jonathan became the parent figure to King Saul.
And Jonathan’s sharpened perception was not limited just to King Saul. His sharpened perception was in clear display on the field of battle against Israel’s notorious enemy, the Philistines. This led Jonathan often to break rank and strike out on his own, single handedly attacking the Philistines at their Achilles Heel.
Jonathan was truly an exceptional man. The Bible is not sparing in its criticism of its characters. Abraham takes flack. Moses takes flack. Even David takes flack. Not one word of criticism is leveled against Jonathan.
Then one day David happened into his life. Jonathan was one of the onlookers present when David slew Goliath. Now the story David and Goliath is an immortal story for a reason. It records an immortal event. David was a lad of perhaps fifteen when it took place. As the onlookers saw David gather five smooth stones, they could only have been scratching their heads. What was he up to?
Jonathan knew. Jonathan knew because David’s perception was sharpened too. Here was David breaking ranks, striking out on his own, just as Jonathan was apt to do. In David’s mind, as in Jonathan’s, there was no doubt as to the outcome of the contest. David perceived Goliath’s Achilles Heel. We have all heard that expression about turning a battleship. Battleships don’t exactly turn on a dime. Goliath was a battleship -- slow, heavy, and unwieldy. He was the perfect target. So it took but one stone from David’s slingshot, and down he went. It was the beginning of a beautiful relationship.
Jonathan loved David. And he did something we should always remember to do for our loved ones. He showed his love. He made a friendship pact between them, and to seal it Jonathan did something extraordinary. He bestowed upon David his robe, his belt, and his sword. But he was not merely sharing his clothes. Jonathan was a prince and heir apparent to the throne. He was bestowing upon David his own royal vestments - transferring, in effect, his birthright to David. Jonathan was an exceptional man, and here is more proof of it. He wanted the best man to rule, and so he stepped aside. Jonathan knew he had something more valuable than the throne. He had friendship. But like all good things, it was not to last.
Saul’s mental illness, as with all mental illness if left untreated, deteriorated. His maniacal paranoia found a focus on David. His monomania was to see David dead. Jonathan was caught in the middle --his friendship with David on the one hand and his responsibility for his deranged father on the other. When the Philistines launched their next attack, Jonathan, knowing his father was no longer fit to fight, followed him into battle. The Philistines killed them both.
David’s good and great friend cut down in the flower of his youth. How David grieved! He mourned, and he wept. And when he could see through the haze of his grief, he wrote a poem to commemorate his friend. “How the mighty have fallen...” it began.
David and Jonathan. Theirs was one of the most profound and poignant friendships in the Old Testament. The Old Testament then, would seem to commend to us God’s gift of friendship. And what a great gift it is. C.S. Lewis wrote of friendship, “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.' What a great gift it is, to be given a kindred spirit, to be given a companion who sees through your eyes -- who understands you, who relates to you, who sympathizes with you, who supports you, who counsels you. What a gift it is to experience life with that one at your side.” But as with all God’s gifts, as with the gift of life itself, it is as precious as it is fragile.
Jonathan and David-- one of the most profound and poignant friendships in the Old Testament. But this is the Old Testament we’re talking about, mind you. What does the New Testament have to say about friendship? Does it commend to us God’s gift of friendship? Because let’s admit it, sometimes the New Testament can be something of a spoiler. There’s nothing in the Old Testament about taking up a cross and following, or turning the other cheek, or loving your enemy. Is the New Testament then going to tell us to hate our friends? But fortunately, such is not the case.
The New Testament commends to us God’s gift of friendship as well, and nowhere is this more clearly seen than in the friendship of Jesus and Lazarus. Theirs is one of the most poignant and profound friendships in human history. Lazarus was, in fact, the only friend Jesus had who was not too a disciple. So Lazarus was the one person in the world with whom Jesus did not have to be “on”. He did not have to bear his role as the Messiah, the Son of the Living God. With Lazarus, Jesus could just be. He could unwind. He could share with Lazarus how hard it was to withstand the enmity and threats of the religious establishment, to dwell day by day amidst the din and demands of the crowds, to foresee his death on the horizon.
This makes Jesus’ raising of Lazarus all the more gut wrenching. Jesus knew his own death was on the horizon, but suddenly time had grown unexpectedly short. He had very little time left, but enough time to make a final witness to himself. And so when Lazarus fell ill, he allowed him to die in order to make that final witness.
And let him die he did. He allowed Lazarus to experience the agony of death, and his loved ones to experience the agony of loss. When Jesus came among them, he absorbed that agony. And so he wept. He wept for the death of Lazarus, just as David wept for the death of Jonathan. Jesus then made his final witness to himself. He proclaimed, “I am the resurrection and the life,” and he raised Lazarus from death, but only to face his own.
Yes, the New Testament too commends to us God’s gift of friendship. It is something to thank him for in our daily prayers. But if we want to fully thank him we must do it with more than words. We must do it with actions. We must not only receive God’s gift of friendship, we must give it. We must be friends. We must be there for our friends. We must share with our friends our time. We must share with our friends our love, our care, our generosity, and our support. We must accompany our friends in good times, but especially in bad.
I often hear people say that they want to make a difference in this world. I often hear people say they want to leave this world a better place. I often hear people say they want to make their lives count for something. I often hear people say they want to be able to gesture to some good their lives accomplished. What can we do? We can think of Jonathan and David. We can think of Jesus and Lazarus. And we can be the best friends we can possibly be. Amen.