Each semester at the college where I teach, the Faculty Women’s Caucus offers a number of educational presentations of particular interest to faculty women. The topics are about what you’d imagine – offerings by the faculty of the Women’s Studies Department about their research, reports about gender discrimination or pay inequality in higher education…this sort of thing.
Last week, however, the educational presentation was somewhat atypical. It was on female body image. At first I wasn’t going to go. I knew the bottom line – women have negative body images. I recently read somewhere that nearly 75% of women dislike their bodies; in fact, find their bodies “ugly.” Yes, I knew the bottom line, and, quite frankly, I just wasn’t in the mood for a downer.
I ran into a colleague, however, just before the presentation, and she asked if I was going. She said she was going because her daughter was struggling with issues around body image. So I tagged along with her. To describe the presentation as a downer would be something of an understatement. It was utterly devastating.
Young women in this culture hardly stand a chance. They are confronted everywhere they turn with fraudulent photo-shopped images of a nonexistent ideal to which they could never live up. Even if they could see through these as motivated by greed - as the means to sell them products, the peer pressure around them is overwhelming. Everyone else is giving into it. If they don’t, they feel all the more like Ugly Ducklings.
The result is low self- esteem, underachievement, depression, eating disorders, self-mutilation, elective surgery, and the belief that no one, especially boyfriends or partners, could ever love them for themselves. By the time a young woman was telling of her little sister’s suicide, we were all wiping our eyes, but I had to duck out to pick up my daughters from school.
As I was making my way, I began thinking about my daughters – that having been born in China, they don’t look like the girls of the dominant culture; that they are adolescents; that they could easily grow blind to their essential value; blind to their intrinsic beauty. By the time I picked them up I was in a full blown panic - wild eyed like the prophet Elijah and twice as fierce.
As I swept them to the car, I began informing them, perhaps a bit too stridently, a bit too urgently, that each of them was beautiful, and that that was an iron clad fact, regardless of the cultural brainwashing they would soon undergo. "But Mom," one of them began, "I am not pretty like the other girls." What?!" I shrieked. "How could you say such a thing?! Beauty takes many forms - many colors, shapes, and sizes. We are going to the Art Institute tomorrow, and I am going to show you a thing or two about human beauty!" She looked at me like I was the prophet Elijah. It was then that I realized that I was not thinking clearly. I should not have hollered in their faces that they were beautiful, even though I know them to be. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a child that isn’t beautiful. I should have told them what the Bible says on the issue, which happens to be spelled out in our Old Testament Lesson.
Samuel had been ordered by the Lord to anoint a successor to King Saul. He was instructed that that successor would be found among the sons of Jesse. Jesse had eight sons, which would be a distinction in any age – but it was particularly so in the biblical age when male children were a highly valued necessity for survival. Jesse was particularly proud of his first three sons, Eliab, Abinadab, and Shammah. They were the oldest. They were now young men. They served as leaders and role models for the others.
While the younger sons remained at home, Eliab, Abinadab, and Shammah were soldiers in King Saul’s army. Jesse hoped that in time the others would follow in their footsteps. But as each passed before Samuel, none were chosen to be anointed. So it was with the rest of the sons, save for the eighth, the youngest, whose name was David. No one had bothered to summon him. He was just a young lad, a stripling as the Bible describes him, which meant that he was skinny as a bean pole. Next to his brothers he must have appeared something of a pipsqueak. Samuel requested that he be brought forth. When Samuel beheld him, he heard the word of the Lord, Rise and anoint him, for he is the one.
But why? Why David? The Bible makes it crystal clear. It is because, The Lord does not see as mortals see; they look on outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart. In the eyes of the Lord, then, beauty derives from the heart.
And what did the Lord see in David’s heart? He saw faith. He saw true and ardent and inviolable faith. Faith is what produced David – It produced his courage to slay Goliath; It produced his drive to found the nation of Israel. It produced his inspiration to set the Ark upon Mt. Zion. David heart was filled with rock solid faith in the Lord’s promises and in his role to play in their enactment, so the Lord saw in him beauty.
And as reward for all that David’s faith inspired him to do, the Lord consecrated him with one final crowning distinction. The Lord promised David that from him would issue the dynasty from which the Son of David and the Son of God, Jesus Christ would arise.
And in Jesus Christ, the Lord proved, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that in his eyes beauty derives from the heart, and in Jesus’ heart the Lord too saw faith - faith next to which even David’s was but a pale harbinger.
Outwardly Jesus was as the prophet Isaiah foresaw him, "A root out of dry ground…with no form or majesty that we should look at him….a man of suffering and acquainted with infirmity…." But as Jesus taught about God’s kingdom, as he demonstrated the quality and power of that kingdom in his miracles, as he spoke a word of exposure to hypocrisy, a word of compassion to victimization, a word of mercy to sin, and a word of hope to all the world, the Lord saw faith that was the perfect and unwavering embodiment of his own truth. And as Jesus hung on the cross for that faith - emptying himself, humbling himself, obedient unto death – even then, particularly then, the Lord saw beauty.
What I should have told my daughter, and what I hope they will come to believe and affirm, is that in the Lord’s eyes beauty has little to do with, let’s not mince words, concealing a face – a face that is meant to laugh and cry and eat and drink and speak and sing and show emotion - concealing a face behind a generic cosmetic mask. And it has little to do with reducing a body – a body that is equipped for exertion and endurance and strength and vocation and intimacy and survival – reducing a body to a fashion mannequin. In the Lord’s eyes, beauty has to do with the heart.
So when the Lord’s sees a faithful heart, and all traits that faith may produce in a given individual – love or courage or truth or self-sacrifice or fairness or determination or integrity or gentleness or prayer or praise….then the Lord sees beauty. The Lord does not give as the world gives, and we may thank him for that. The Lord gives according to his eternal purposes.
During one of my trips to China, I was in a restaurant with my newly adopted daughter. Suddenly there was a subtle commotion - a hush, murmuring, whispers. Someone important had entered. I figured it was a Chinese celebrity of some sort. But the tenor was not one of giddiness and excitement. The tenor was one of awe and reverence. I finally saw what everyone was looking at. It wasn’t’ a Chinese celebrity. It was a blind American woman had adopted a young blind boy and his sighted, slightly older caretaker. The little boy was emaciated. He had not been well treated. He must have been four or five, but he was so weak that he was reclined in a stroller. As his new mother fed him, she soothed and comforted him with soft words, tears of love and concern welling in her eyes. Tears welled in my eyes too, as they did in the eyes of everyone there, so moved were we all by the beauty of those three people. And I knew at that moment that God had gifted me to see them through his eyes. Amen.